tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post7371732589447930038..comments2014-01-26T16:22:30.990-08:00Comments on This is Mine...Seriously: Patterns of a Naive GirlKelly Williamsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05496135919740203425noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-58033707693028628672012-07-07T06:40:28.712-07:002012-07-07T06:40:28.712-07:00the day when we become the parents and our parents...the day when we become the parents and our parents the children is a horrible day. it's frustrating to see the person and not have them mentally be the same person we loved for so long. i cannot begin to know how hard this must be for you, but i applaud your effort to still say that "i love you" because too often people give up and have regrets. at least you will walk away knowing you handled it the best you could.bolton carleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16357369450903733047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-79927447875519081392012-07-01T17:52:45.227-07:002012-07-01T17:52:45.227-07:00Thank you for sharing that, Veronica. I am learni...Thank you for sharing that, Veronica. I am learning from this experience, and hopefully the things I learn can be of help to others someday.Kelly Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05496135919740203425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-31874692904470820652012-07-01T17:49:04.337-07:002012-07-01T17:49:04.337-07:00Thanks, Gerry. Despite this sad situation, I do c...Thanks, Gerry. Despite this sad situation, I do consider myself lucky in so many other ways.Kelly Ann Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13840871784263302779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-81133985009087351972012-07-01T17:47:46.693-07:002012-07-01T17:47:46.693-07:00Thanks, Amanda. :)Thanks, Amanda. :)Kelly Ann Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13840871784263302779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-59509941012507037232012-07-01T17:47:17.211-07:002012-07-01T17:47:17.211-07:00Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by a...Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by and share your kind thoughts.Kelly Ann Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13840871784263302779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-84890836043408769182012-07-01T17:46:02.597-07:002012-07-01T17:46:02.597-07:00Thank you, Monique. You are so right...we are all...Thank you, Monique. You are so right...we are all doing the best we can, trying to make our way.Kelly Ann Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13840871784263302779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-47280304140361904702012-07-01T17:31:51.219-07:002012-07-01T17:31:51.219-07:00Kelly, I think some of the hardest losses we exper...Kelly, I think some of the hardest losses we experience are those where death isn't the culprit but something else is--maybe a terrible, debilitating illness like your mother's (either physical or mental), or a deeply hurtful severing of a relationship that separates us from someone we love (like a painful divorce), but that other person is still alive. I think the grief process is much the same as when someone we love dies. I'm glad you have a strong support system, and I'm glad you have these expressions of support here. I'm also glad that you have the strength and courage put such complex, difficult feelings into words. That in itself is a priceless gift. Savor the good memories, but get it all down, the good and the bad.Gerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956363982769429474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-26036162638477757912012-06-28T18:06:37.096-07:002012-06-28T18:06:37.096-07:00Kelly: This blog post was so nicely and lightly wr...Kelly: This blog post was so nicely and lightly written. That is amazing that you are able to hold on to memories of your mother despite her changes. Best wishes as you continue your journey into acceptance and a different form of love.Amanda Soccihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01885133376566028524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-70503459026628936262012-06-24T15:56:36.103-07:002012-06-24T15:56:36.103-07:00You know Kelly, I do this all the time. I write sc...You know Kelly, I do this all the time. I write scripts in my head, especially scripts re: mother and when they don’t act out to what I’ve written I get upset/sad/depressed. I have an overbearing control freak mother and am an only child. I have to keep reminding myself that she isn’t the loving, supporting mother I wish or see glimpses of. Never was...never will be. But, I have a second chance to make things right: I’m a mother and I can be all to my children that she is not to me. Feeling much sympathy and love for you.Veronica Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15288280932510764014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-19636759895255669582012-06-23T19:09:15.932-07:002012-06-23T19:09:15.932-07:00I am so sorry you are experiencing this, and your ...I am so sorry you are experiencing this, and your family too. I don't know what's wrong with her, but can feel your love and sorrow. Keeping you in my heart's prayers.Sorry Gnathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05314151162104734712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-2760415854462594412012-06-23T14:56:03.299-07:002012-06-23T14:56:03.299-07:00Dear Kelly -
It is so good to see you again.
The...Dear Kelly - <br />It is so good to see you again.<br /><br />The computer lost the comment I originally wrote and I am having trouble re-writing it. I did write you a personal message on FB. <br /><br />Be gentle with yourself. I know you want to be at that place where you have learned all the lessons so you won't hurt again. I am learning the same lesson but in a different context. No one can know the "right" way to walk this path. You are learning as you walk this life road. You are self-reflective and strong. You can only walk the path as yourself and you will do it in your own way because it is your own path. The way you travel your life road is perfect in the eyes of the one it matters. Let it be perfect in your eyes.<br /><br />Blessings to you, your father, your sister and your immediate family. Blessings to your mother, too.<br /><br />MoniqueMonique Liddlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06581045047444260284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-80017922237011589422012-06-23T12:52:25.412-07:002012-06-23T12:52:25.412-07:00Your kind words of support are appreciated, not on...Your kind words of support are appreciated, not only by myself, but by my entire family.Kelly Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05496135919740203425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-89144522615601103002012-06-23T12:50:24.106-07:002012-06-23T12:50:24.106-07:00Thank you, Jennifer!Thank you, Jennifer!Kelly Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05496135919740203425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-73907390475482704242012-06-23T12:15:44.416-07:002012-06-23T12:15:44.416-07:00Kelly, my heart goes out to you. You are experienc...Kelly, my heart goes out to you. You are experiencing a kind of death; it is entirely appropriate for you to mourn and grieve. It takes a lot of time and grace to get through something like this (and you won't "get over" it-- there's no "getting over" deep grief. There's only getting through it.).<br />It sounds like you have good support in your husband, kids, and the rest of your family. That doesn't mean you won't still feel alone in your grief. That is also appropriate, as you are mourning your unique relationship with the only mother you will ever have.<br />I wish you peace and comfort; I wish you joy in remembering better times. <3Claudia Karabaic Sargenthttp://ckswarriorqueen.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-82515243679368414712012-06-23T11:18:46.686-07:002012-06-23T11:18:46.686-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-11680464364976014322012-06-23T10:28:09.539-07:002012-06-23T10:28:09.539-07:00So sorry to hear about you hurting. I'm glad ...So sorry to hear about you hurting. I'm glad to see you processing your emotions through writing, though. Best wishes to you.Jennifer Chowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13100465489398830928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-30431543789706711412012-06-23T09:23:21.124-07:002012-06-23T09:23:21.124-07:00Thanks, Kasie! It feels good to be writing again!...Thanks, Kasie! It feels good to be writing again!Kelly Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05496135919740203425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5232732786566862045.post-36248877235300731022012-06-23T07:18:49.381-07:002012-06-23T07:18:49.381-07:00My heart breaks for you, Kelly. So much of this is...My heart breaks for you, Kelly. So much of this is a grieving process. Really great work. Glad to see you back at it.Kasie Whitenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475275103424782144noreply@blogger.com